After finishing reading the book, my mind was filled with
intense emotion that was hard to explain by words. It’s a beautiful love story
after all even though the two main characters didn’t have a happy ending at the
end. The most important thing here is they had loved each other truly, deeply;
madly and with love they overcame all the barriers that prevented two people
from different races to love each other. I wish I could be able to experience a
love like that, with the affection developed so strongly and genuinely. All the
first dates, the trip around the North Island, the mornings they went to deliver
mails together. They laughed, talked, kissed, made love with their two hearts
full of love and desire for each other and they seemed not to care about what
may happen tomorrow. They loved and enjoyed every single day of their time.
However, life is never easy. There’s always something coming
up and we could see it right at the beginning of the book. It’s some kind of
premonition about their love that it will not end up with a happy ending. Why?
Because he’s a Samoan immigrant and she’s a white New Zealand born girl. It
sounds like a little problem that is easy to solve but actually it’s not, especially
back to the time the book was written, in the 70’s. But “Sons for the return
home” is not only about a love relationship. It’s also about a man, growing up,
racism, family and so on. The experience spreads out beyond the pages of the
books. It’s about racism, not only the racist sentiment the girl’s mother has
towards the boy that makes she never accept their marriage but also the
attitude of his mother when it comes to their marriage issue. This novel
somehow reminds me of the book “L’amant”
(The Lover) by the French writer Marguerite Duras, which is about an obsessive
haunting love story between an adolescent French girl and her Chinese lover. There
are quite a few of similarities between those 2 novels even though they were written
in different times, about different people in different contexts. But they’re
both about love that blossomed too early to be acknowledged but too late to
come to fruition.
Coming to New Zealand at a very young age and growing up as a
Samoan boy in a Western society where he was exposed to Western culture and
lifestyle when he went to school but still had his family and their traditional
way of thinking when he came home, the boy somehow became a complicated person
who always had so much thinking in his mind. All the stories his parents told
him about their lives back in the island, all the myths he knows about the land
he was living in, the Samoan community with his friends and then the school
with another kind of friends and people. He became an excellent student at
school but at the same time, he didn’t think that it was something to be proud
of. He always remembered all the stories about racist people who had treated
him and his brother and other immigrants badly in the past and it seemed that
he would never forgive them for doing so. However, he would never have thought
that later on, he would fall for a white girl and actually he did. And their love
is so genuine and passionate that sometimes they felt like they were choked
with too much emotion for each other. There’s a sense of exhaustion too as they
love each other so much that there’s no other way to express the love they were
carrying. He loved her so much that he tried to restrain his anger in front of
her friends at the parties, which is quite unusual for a guy like him. He loved
her and at the same time, respected and treasured her. Their love is so pure
and precious.
After the abortion and she left, he was hurt so badly that “…he couldn’t hold back the pain. He fled
into the shadows of an alleyway and wept” and “She had betrayed him. But he still loved her. He was sick with the
love he felt for her”. I was really impressed when I reached to this part
of the story. I’ve never seen a guy like this before, who had been hurt so
badly by his lover that his heart was broken and he could not say or do
anything to save it. One special thing about this book, the writer never
mentions the names of the two main characters. They are simply called “the boy” and “the girl” or “she” and “he”. They don’t have their personal
names, which is quite unusual for a novel. There might just be a coincidence
but there might be writer’s intention not to give them particular names as this
kind of love story can refer to many other people who had the same situations,
who came from different races with different cultural backgrounds and values.
The guy and his family came to New Zealand with only one
purpose: Searching for financial security and after that they can return to their
homeland and they always longed for this return. His parents taught him Samoan
language and culture. They told him not to forget his origin and the reason why
they were here and what they expected him to do. However, things didn’t come
the way they wanted them to. His dad is a wise sensible man who loves and
understands his son so he always supports him with every decision he made but
his mom, she remains a traditional Samoan woman who was difficult to change her
mind and accept things. And about the girl family, she was always obsessed with
her parents’ marriage because they didn’t marry each other out of love but they
got married just because her mom got pregnant with her. That’s why she was so
confused and frustrated when she found out she was pregnant with his child.
There were so many complicated things going on in her mind and I didn’t
understand why she decided to have an abortion. It’s because of her fear for
her marriage with him that would end up like her parents’ or it’s possibly because
she thought that they would never be able to overcome the discrimination against
marriage between different races. For whatever reason, I still deeply feel
sorry for her. It’s not her fault to be born white and rich. It’s not her fault
to fall in love with the guy from a different race. It’s just that the time was
wrong and she was too young to make up her mind, to make the right choice. If
they were living at this time, they might be happy together, have a happy
family and their own children. But back to that time, things were so difficult.
And they were so young and desperate. Being loved too much that you are not able
to breathe but at the end, you’re still being apart from each other. Who could
forget such a thing in their lifetime? It’s so hurtful. It’s so sad.